i am going out with this great guy next week. and after talking on the phone and getting to know each other we are setting up to meet face to face. A it's at this time i recall that i'm over weight by most peoples standards. An i'm not sure if i can handle rejection.
I feel like i've jumped in over my head! An i do not want to back out, just run and hide a little. I hate playing the fat ugly chick role. I always feel like i'm skatting up hill.
I NEED YOU TO LOVE ME DISPITE MY WEIGHT!
i wish i was a size 3 or 4 and i could just walk into his arms and feel ok. But i don't, i'm single because i can not bring myself to open up. all the talk about how beautiful big is: and on the inside i want die....
I'm not able to belive the hype!
help any ideas......
I feel like i've jumped in over my head! An i do not want to back out, just run and hide a little. I hate playing the fat ugly chick role. I always feel like i'm skatting up hill.
I NEED YOU TO LOVE ME DISPITE MY WEIGHT!
i wish i was a size 3 or 4 and i could just walk into his arms and feel ok. But i don't, i'm single because i can not bring myself to open up. all the talk about how beautiful big is: and on the inside i want die....
I'm not able to belive the hype!
help any ideas......
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Re: Blind date blues
Tue, October 4, 2005 - 11:09 PMboy do i know just how you feel.............it's strange too...that there are all these groups and tribes of men who profess to love us larger ladies...but damned if i can ever run into any of them in my day to day living existence...instead i am trapped in a world of men who want the slim little blondes...i cannot compete in that world so i have pretty much just removed myself from thoughts of relationships...
but...
this tribe itself is proof that there are those men out there who like us...and maybe you have found one...
good luck!
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Re: Blind date blues
Wed, October 5, 2005 - 6:52 AMWell, I understand, too. But I do encourage you to not assume this guy won't like your voluptous self before you give him a chance. I am living proof that there ARE these guys out there... i.e. my Zodiac! -
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Re: Blind date blues
Wed, October 5, 2005 - 7:58 AMYes ladies we guys are out there! My ex wife was a large woman and my current wife will never be a "skinny chick". Bottom line I loved my ex and my current wife not for their size at all (although that has advantages in other ways!) but because of who THEY were not WHAT they were.
Give the guy a chance! Loosen up and enjoy yourself. That's what will win him over most of all!
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Re: Blind date blues
Wed, October 5, 2005 - 8:49 AMFirst off don't panic. You might be surprised.
Maybe you don't want him, but you're going to find out. He's probably just as nervous as you are.
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Re: Blind date blues
Mon, October 10, 2005 - 11:31 AMI got over my fears like that, Morayo, by being upfront about my weight. But that was easy to do once I joined BBW internet dating services where the whole element of "will he reject me because of my weight?" is completely missing. There may be some guys who like girls bigger or smaller than you, and they'll tell you. Being told by someone he's not attracted to me cus I'm not big enough is kinda a neat experience, after being the fat girl all my life, too. hehehehehehe! ;D
If you hold back about your weight, in a since, you're not treating yourself with respect. You don't have to hide it. Just increase your chances of success by going to places where you will be accepted exactly as you are.
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Re: Blind date blues
Thu, October 13, 2005 - 5:25 AMthank you! We did go out and I had lots of fun, I just had a hick up with the whole idea. -
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Re: Blind date blues
Fri, October 14, 2005 - 2:18 AMYAY!!!
I was hoping it was just a case of the jitters. -
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Re: Blind date blues
Fri, October 14, 2005 - 7:26 AMall better now. i'm still not sure how far we will go at this but i'm having a blast!
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Re: Blind date blues
Wed, February 22, 2006 - 1:21 PMI'm so glad your fears didn't pan out!
As someone dipping their toe into the dating scene for the first time, it is good to hear success stories. Typically, I've just ended up delving into deeper relationships with my close friends, but as many of my companions are getting married and monogamous, it might be time to add to my "bag of tricks."
Cheerfully,
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All of the above.
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Re: Blind date blues
Wed, February 14, 2007 - 10:56 AMhey I am new to the tribe and was just reading this thread...
so what happened ;)?
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Re: Blind date blues
Thu, February 15, 2007 - 2:40 AMI have had many blind dates from the internet. All of them worked out except for one time. That one time we met at a bar. She was a lovely BBW but she said if we were to do anything I would have to pay her $100. I told her thanks but no thanks. -
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Re: Blind date blues
Thu, February 15, 2007 - 4:42 AMWow....now thats a bit of a detail you think she would have made clear before you met! People are just so odd sometimes.... I mean there are enough people out there willing to pay so if thats your thing why not be up front....instead of pretending you want to date someone!!!
I think my worst internet blind date was the one where the guy lied about his age....he had said he was 33 (which at the time would have been a bit older than I usually date) and even sent a picture....come to find out the picture was his SON and he was 58!!!!!! He thought I wouldn't be interested if I knew how old he was but some how that I would just look past all of that when we met face to face. -
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Re: Blind date blues
Tue, April 3, 2007 - 2:27 AMBut even though we have our dates whre the person isn't who he or she isn't who he or she said he or she said he or she is. (Wow that he or she stuff was wild to type.) But in most cases the other person is exactly the person I have met online. -
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Re: Blind date blues
Tue, April 3, 2007 - 4:02 AMYou have been very lucky then! :)
I have met some pretty cool people on line, got three of my bbf out of it! Oh and also my sons daddy! :)
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